Many people ask me how can the make her or his ex to return their text, phone calls or email.
There’s a a very powerful tactic to do it. But you should NOT use this strategy on its own.
You need an overall plan that also fits this strategy. If you don’t do that there are risks that when you got them on the phone the conversation quickly turn into an argument… and that isn’t good for your relationship!
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Ok… So let’s talk about what you should not say.
There are two types of messages the almost never work and that can put you in a nasty ‘psychological’ position.
The 1st type is the PLEAD
It sounds like:
“John, please, please, please do call me. This is the 4th time I have called. I really need to talk to you.”
The 2nd type is the EMERGENCY
“Paul, this is an emergency. Please do call me asap.”
In these 2 cases the will to return the call will not be too high. Worst, your ex may also find it more annoying than anything else.
Do you want to know the SECRET?
The secret to getting them to contact you is to write a message that include 2 powerful driving forces of the human mind: Curiosity & Self-Interest.
Here are the elements that you should include in your message:
- You have accepted the breakup and you are moving on.
- There’s change in your life.
- Give a compliment.
- Also give a (slight and half joking) criticism.
- You would like to catch up in the future.
- You want to give them space.
- Leave it open for them to CALL YOU if they want.
- Keep the message BRIEF, no longer than 100-200 words long.
These elements can be included in your message in any order. Just make sure you include them all.
At the end of the letter, say “Call me if you’d like to chat”. Do NOT bold it or make it obvious that’s all you want them to do.
Here’s an example:
Over the last couple of days I’ve had time to think about things and I’ve realized this break up is for the best. I’m now moving on with my life and I think you should too.
I really hope you’re OK; you’ve always been very strong, and that is something that I’ve always admired (although VERY stubborn too!) so I know you’ll be OK.
I’ve realized what I had been missing out on in the past and I’m not going to let that happen again. You wouldn’t believe what I’m up to this weekend =)
Hope we can catch up sometime in the future, but I think you need space right now. Call me if you want to talk.
With this letter your ex will be surprised to see a change in you and will become naturally CURIOUS.
WARNING: Do NOT forget to have an underlying strategy BEFORE you call or send a letter.
What you do BEFORE, DURING and AFTER you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.
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